"This suggests that there is interference between these processes." Can't keep eye contact during conversation. Rant/Vent. Eye contact is one of those Goldilocks things: Too much, and people find you intense; too little, and people think you’re shifty. Americans consider eye contact an important non-verbal form of communication, but many people may not offer a direct eye gaze for many reasons. Explore some common mistakes that are made with eye contact. A guy can tell whether you are interested in him or not through your eyes. Getting it just right, though, can be a challenge — especially when you consider that so many people find the whole thing awkward to begin with (even rock stars have trouble). For everyday conversation, make eye contact in spurts of 3-4 seconds. Anxiety or a cultural difference may reduce the likelihood of some people making eye contact with you. By now, making and maintaining eye contact in conversation is totally natural to me now and it’s not forced. These can include reinforcing natural and spontaneous occurrences of eye contact and increasing the duration of eye contact during conversation. Avoiding eye contact is a sign that something is up with this person. "Although eye contact and verbal processing appear independent, people frequently avert their eyes from interlocutors during conversation," wrote the researchers. ... Hell yeah, people are even frustrated with me about it sometimes or think im angry with them but i hardly even make eye contact with my closest person my girlfriend.

This eye contact (or lack thereof) is typically reserved for the horny mouth-breathers who stare at a girl’s tits, obnoxious drunk guys in full-on bro mode, the crazed ex-girlfriend stalker, or any other potential psycho in one’s vicinity. Jodi Schulz, Michigan State University Extension - December 31, 2012 The effects of eye contact don't end with the conversation, either. When talking, make eye contact 1/3 of the time. If you have this problem, change it. It's easier to make eye contact for a short period of time vs. a during longer conversation. Level (-1) eye contact can also occur within a conversation. When you're learning you could start off by only trying to make eye contact for quick, 'throw away' conversations with people like cashiers. When listening, make eye contact 2/3 of the time. Tips for Making Eye Contact Establish eye contact at the start. Make eye contact before you start talking to someone. In human beings, eye contact is a form of nonverbal communication and is thought to have a large influence on social behavior.Coined in the early to mid-1960s, the term came from the West to often define the act as a meaningful and important sign of confidence, respect, and social communication.