However, underneath the surface of people pleasing are a lot of negative emotions and motives, which destroy your integrity and your self-worth. It's not normal to think of others and get resentments when they don't reciprocate, but somehow I keep bs-ing myself that it is and most "normal" people these days are self centered and mannerless ( <- not a word lol ).

Where do cravings come from and what happens when we try to resist them? Alcoholism is also known as a family disease. Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. Set Healthy and Firm Boundaries Feeling like you have an abundance of time and energy to give often inspires you to give more than you have.

A parent with Borderline Personality, so the People Pleaser learns to soothe and comfort inappropriate dramatic crises and pity stories

rosemarysummers2 September 11, 2015 at 10:45 AM - Reply I’m trying, I do feel guilty not complying and not making the other party happy, but I’m trying and when I do succeed am much happier for it, and lose the guilt. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety. Some of the downsides for me are the expectations that are attached to my people pleasing. I am discovering what a huge role this plays in my life.

My worth was in the hands of everyone around me. They can stand up for themselves at times, but those times are rare occasions. The people-pleasing pattern of behaviour can be a real danger to those who are trying to recover from an addiction.

In order to make progress in sobriety, you need to be able to take charge of your own life and not rely on others to fix … A parent with addiction / alcoholism issues, so the People Pleaser learns to manage another person's illness. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. It's a good point about pleasing people. I'm looking for ES&H regarding people pleasing.

Not drinking would be a lot easier without the feeling of somehow letting people down by not partaking.

Every day was me bending over backward to make sure I could get through another alcoholic day. People pleasers typically aren’t just people who want to do everything they can – they can’t say no to other people’s requests, even if it rubs them the wrong way. The effects of alcohol abuse on the people you love Despite the potentially lethal damage that heavy drinking inflicts on the body—including cancer, heart problems, and liver disease—the social consequences can be just as devastating. Several studies even showed that people who lack motivation are less likely to become addicted to alcohol than highly motivated individuals (Silverstein, 1990). Often, people-pleasing has roots in childhood struggles of being accepted, loved, and acknowledged. JOIN. As Kim approaches 100 days without alcohol, she’s noticing some strong cravings and is also curious about changing her people pleasing tendencies.

Friends and Family of Alcoholics - People Pleasing - I've been out of town for a while and it's good to be back and read posts of sanity! Very often alcoholism affects highly educated people. Once you’re on it, you sort of keep ramping up the speed without even noticing, going nowhere. People pleasing can be really subtle, such as agreeing with someone when you actually don’t agree, so they’ll like you, and you can be who they want you to be, she said. 33,531 Posts. The clarity that sobriety brings will enable you to see yourself and your habits for what they are and for whom they are being done for. We want to do good and show others we care. 0 Online. Alcoholism and alcohol abuse can also have an impact on your family, friends and the people you work with. When people praised me, it made me feel better about myself. Is a bad habit! I was not aware because I'm not a particularly "obvious" people

That was how I became an atta-boy junkie and why I had no idea who the hell I was.

EP 272: Reader Question – How do I handle cravings and people pleasing? Learn how to let go of alcohol as a coping mechanism, how to shift your mindset about sobriety and change your drinking habits, how to create healthy routines to cope with anxiety, people pleasing and perfectionism, the importance of self-care in early sobriety, and why you don’t need to be an alcoholic to live an alcohol free life. 3,886 Members. Believe me I know first hand....I have always struggled with this, and it is at the top of my list of things that I want to work on to Friends birthdays in …

People pleasing is a treadmill. For all intents and purposes, people pleasers will do what you ask them to do, almost regardless of how they feel about it. The Dangers of People Pleasing for Those in Recovery. people pleasing may lead to depression; it can lead to maladaptive behaviours such as passive aggression.